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| Poster: no one Reply Post Message Date: Mon Jan 27 19:27:51 2003 |
| Subject: question on buddhism and relationship |
| Post No: 1092 Reply to: 1082 |
I am a 21 year old male.....currently in college....i've been reading a lot of buddhism materials off and on ever since the summer of '95. To me, falling in love is kinda selfish in a sense. I've discovered the only times when I have the feeling of wanting or needing someone is when i'm feeling down, sad, bored, when i'm feeling sorry for myself, or when i need somebody to understand me. But when my mind is completely occuppied with something that i need to do and dont have the time to think about myself then these love thoughts never arise. Does love only happen when people are feeling weak ? I think for the stong people love never happen. I think when you say that you like a person you should first ask yourself why do you like that particular person. With me, i've never been involved in any relationship, but i think most love happens because that girl has something that you dont have and this thing means a lot to you. This "thing" could be a material need or most of the time a psychological need. You want to love her because having her by your side will bring you closer to this thing that you've been wanting for so long. This is the thing that you have to look out for . Most of the time you're not interested in your lover but instead in what that person can bring to you. Also, I think friendship is more beautiful than romance. In the buddhist spirit, keep your love to all, not just to a special person |